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I call Thom the Shame Whispherer -Carol Carter, Dallas, Texas



First off I want to say that any book Thom writes is worth it's weight in gold. I work in the area of eating disorders and recommend all of Thom's books to my clients. He knows what he is talking about. The name Thom Rutledge is synonymous with recovery from any addiction whether it be codependency, eating disorders, substance use and so on. This handbook is so very helpful and allows the reader to work at their own pace. I hear from women all the time how much they gained from not only reading this handbook but working through it and applying the tools to their lives. Thank you Thom!     -Charmaine Hutchinson, balancED Support Group for Women with Eating Disorders, British Columbia, Canada.                  



I discover something new about myself every time I reread one of Thom’s books. He has a gift for saying in a sentence or two what some writers say in ten! Thom’s words are straight to the point --- and go straight to my heart, where they can do the most good. Thanks, Thom. –Janet LaLande, Maudlin, SC



Thom is a magician. He transforms confusion into clarity. He is also pretty slick with a deck of cards.  -Robert Stepbach, PhD, Nashville, TN



Thom Rutledge is a masterful therapist whose clear and wise voice awakens us to profound, yet simple psychological truths. He brings a fresh and unique perspective that helps us understand and befriend our human emotions rather than fight against ourselves. Thom’s books are a breath of fresh air that awaken us to new and deeper ways of understanding ourselves.  -John Amodeo, PhD, author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships



As Bill Wilson, cofounder of Alcoholics Anonymous, said:  "The secrets of the universe are shrouded in simplicity." Thom taps into those wonderful secrets.  –Dan Mason, author of Parenting Our Kids While Re-parenting Ourselves




The most amazing thing about Thom Rutledge is that you learn from him, you grow from your experience, and all the while you remain totally entertained. This is true whether you are sitting with him in a therapy session, a member of an audience, or reading his books. Besides his formidable skills and talent as a clinician, Thom is a hell of an entertainer and a tremendous writer.   - Jay Tyler, Creator of Meditation Monthly



Take a wonderful journey through and beyond your fear with Thom Rutledge. You'll enjoy your time with him and learn something very valuable about one of our greatest enemies in life ---- the bogeyman in our head.         - Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More 



An insightful, moving and gracious book! Thom Rutledge understands that fear, like self-consciousness, is part of what it means to be human, so he engages it creatively as a force in life. Reading Embracing Fear was, for me, a deeply enriching experience. - John Shelby Spong, author of A New Christianity for a New World.



Thom Rutledge has written a clear guide that shows how to turn fear into a powerful resource in our lives. He draws on his expertise and life experience to help us avoid the destructive consequences of anxiety and unwarranted fear while finding the valuable lessons true fear holds for each of us. Readers will live life a bit more fully with each chapter.  - Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear



Thom does not pretend to have all the answers, nor does he tell us that he is leading a perfect, fear-free life. That makes him one of us: a fellow human being, looking to live life fully awake. That is the kind of teacher we need.  - Oriah Mountain Dreamer, author of The Invitation





A gentle book written with compassion, clarity and humor.  –Melody Beattie, author of Codependent No More



Imagine for a moment that you are sitting across from a highly perceptive therapist who has a great sense of humor and an amazing ability to hear what you are not saying. As the session unfolds you find yourself engaged in activities and experiments that are helping you see yourself and experience yourself in a whole new light. This master therapist is Thom Rutledge. He's intense, engaging, funny as hell, perceptive, bright, creative and you sense he cares deeply for you. As the session unfolds Thom is helping you discover new possibilities that you couldn't have imagined existed - until now. Thom has created in his handbook a simulation of what it is like to be in therapy with this talented therapist. If you immerse yourself in the process that Thom presents in his handbook on self-forgiveness you will change habitual ways of thinking about yourself and habitual ways that you have dealt with yourself. 


Self-forgiveness and self-acceptance are two pillars of self-esteem. Thom's approach will not only heal the self inflicted wounds to your self-esteem but he also will help you reorganize your personality so that you can provide yourself the internal support you need to realize your full potential. Get this handbook and work it. You will be forever grateful to Thom and yourself too if you do.     


–Allen Berger, Ph.D., author of 12 Stupid Things That Mess Up Recover



Thom Rutledge’s books will always have a place on my bookshelves. But for me, The Self-Forgiveness Handbook is special. For the reader who is willing to step into Thom’s world of wisdom and practical application, there waits a genuine shift from head to heart, from judgment to compassion. I have been recommending this book for years and have consistently witnessed powerful, positive outcomes. Thom’s work with self-forgiveness is brave, honest and truly unique.     -Barbara Larew Adams, LCSW, CSAT-S



Thom Rutledge, your book is changing my life and opening my heart up to this long-awaited gift of self-forgiveness. Thank you! 

- Natalie Machado, Los Angeles, CA



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